Mothers-in-Law and Daughters-in-Law: Understanding the Relationship and What Makes Them Friends or Foe

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We all know-and have perhaps told--stories about mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. It seems the stories are nearly always about relationships filled with conflict and abrasive words or actions. But why is this relationship so difficult? Is it always as bad as popular belief would have us think? Deborah Merrill, a woman's advocate and Sociology professor at one of our nation's top universities, has been studying the relationship for nearly a decade. In this book, she explains where the difficulty is rooted, how friendly pairs have made it past problems that surface between a man's mother and his wife, and how they became friends. Dozens of interviews with pairs of women made in-laws by marriage illustrate Merrill's points, from harmful ideas and actions to helpful approaches. At its core, this book holds that marriage requires the creation of a new and separate family, which requires changes in roles, as well as a redefinition of relationships. Hence, family boundaries need to be made permeable to allow for integration of the daughter-in-law, and to allow the son to create his own separate and autonomous family. Family members need to be aware of, and prepare for, this, says Merrill. That, of course, may be easier said than done. But dozens of women who have become friends with their in-laws --some so much so that they drop the "in-law" and just call each other "mother" and "daughter"--explain how they got past the old, popular notions and social structure, to create goodwill and grow stronger families. Understanding the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship and how to make it positive is essential, especially given the extent of existing conflict in these relationships, and the effects of such conflict on marriage and family. Though research on this relationship is relatively rare, the studies that do exist show about half of all mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law experience some conflict, that it is often intense and accompanied by ambiguity and ambivalence. This book can help.

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